Couples Counseling in California
Helping couples navigate challenges
Conflict, disconnection, and miscommunication can leave couples feeling stuck. You may love each other deeply but still find yourselves caught in the same arguments, or struggling to feel close and understood. These patterns can be painful and isolating, yet they are also common and they can be repaired.
When you’ve struggled for a long time, you can feel hopeless that your relationship will ever improve. You’ve tried so hard already. Nothing has worked.
As a Certified Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist (EFCT), I specialize in helping couples navigate challenges and rebuild the trust, intimacy, and security that form the foundation of lasting relationships..
What Is Emotionally Focused Couples Counseling?
EFCT is an evidence-based approach grounded in attachment science. It focuses on the emotional bond between partners, helping couples move beyond surface-level arguments to the deeper needs and fears that drive them.
EFCT is highly effective across cultures and relationship types. Research shows that 70% of couples who complete EFCT will be symptom free by the end of treatment. By identifying and reshaping these patterns, couples can:
Reduce conflict and tension
Improve communication and understanding
Rebuild trust after distance or betrayal
Strengthen intimacy and connection
Create a more secure and resilient partnership
Navigating Conflict and Rebuilding Trust, Communication, and Intimacy
Every couple faces conflict; it’s a normal part of being in a relationship. However, when arguments happen repeatedly, remain unresolved, or become emotionally charged, both partners may feel frustrated and disconnected. Over time, small misunderstandings can turn into larger issues of distance and pain.
In couples Counseling, we work together to slow down these cycles. This approach helps you understand the deeper emotions behind the conflict. Instead of feeling trapped in blame or defensiveness, you and your partner will identify your patterns and turn them into moments of connection.
A key focus of our work is rebuilding trust. Trauma, betrayal, or years of unresolved conflict can damage the sense of safety between partners. Therapy provides a space for both of you to share your hurt, listen with empathy, and take steps toward forgiveness and repair.
Communication is another key element of healthy relationships. Many couples find that their best intentions result in misunderstandings. In our sessions, I help you practice new ways of expressing your emotions and needs. This fosters clarity and compassion instead of escalation.
As trust and communication improve, intimacy also grows. Intimacy goes beyond the physical; it includes the emotional closeness that helps partners feel seen, valued, and loved. Couples therapy supports you in rekindling this closeness, making your relationship feel like a safe, nurturing space again.
The goal is not to eliminate conflict altogether but to change how you navigate it, allowing conflict to lead to deeper understanding instead of creating more distance.
How I Work with Couples
When you begin couples therapy with me, our first goal is to slow down the cycle of conflict that keeps you stuck. Instead of repeating the same arguments, we’ll focus on what’s happening underneath—often fear of rejection, loneliness, or the longing to feel safe with one another.
As your therapist, I act as a guide to help you:
Recognize the negative cycles that fuel disconnection
Learn to express emotions in ways that invite closeness rather than conflict
Rebuild trust so that both partners feel secure in the relationship
Strengthen your ability to turn to each other during times of stress
Couples therapy is not about pointing fingers or assigning blame—it’s about creating a safe, supportive space where both of you can be heard and understood.
A Collaborative Approach
If you and your partner are feeling stuck, disconnected, or struggling to rebuild trust, couples therapy can help. Healing is possible, and you don’t have to do it on your own.
I customize my approach to meet your unique needs, addressing the underlying causes of your struggles and guiding you towards a life that nourishes your heart and soul.
My expertise extends to working with individuals and couples of all ages, races, sexual orientations, and sexual identities. Whether you’re in a traditional or non-traditional relationship, I’m here to support you.
Contact me today to schedule a consultation and begin the process of restoring communication, rebuilding intimacy, and creating a stronger, more connected relationship.